The present era is stiff competition. A continuous journey, surprisingly starting right from tender kindergarten years and the numerous milestones to be achieved with each passing year. Sadly this competition has become ubiquitous. It has entered the very intimate environment of home and family too where a child is expected to impress his/her parents with abilities and smart talks. On this special day which is rightful ‘Children’s Day’ let us try to pool our thoughts on what do we need from our children…?
The definition of parenting success has changed. A successful parent is the one who has delivered a performing child with multiple talents. May be we are not ready to focus on anything other than sheer academic performance or scores in school competitions to judge their well-being. This could be one of the major reason to an alarming reality of the hour, that children are suffering from ‘stress’ at a very early age.
It is very important to celebrate the individuality of children from birth itself. Let them live in a comparison free environment and allowed to grow at their own pace without any external pressure of performance. Academics should not be seen as the sole measure of child’s abilities. For who knows the child has some other hidden talent that may take it places in future, if not now.
The need is to just sit and spend time with children as parents and not as their evaluators. We have to accept that children are now hardly in company of their grandparents in lieu of increasing number of working parents or nuclear families. Hence, they are not able to get the company of elderly people within whom they can confide or share their experiences. This has pushed to a very private no man’s land kind of environment. If we as parents also don’t give them a portion of that space, then the upcoming generations will forget how to express their feelings. They will just become like a self-driven robot who knows only numbers, but not empathy.
Another factor is sticking them to pure academics with no involvement in sports or team play. A sport is not just a physical activity but it is another important teacher that teaches children how to deal with failures. It makes them mentally strong and persistent.
We often tend to reward a child provided they perform well in school tests. But if it is about rewards, then why to make it conditional? Let them be rewarded for helping a person in need, for spending a good deal of time playing with siblings, for volunteering to help out in decorations of some event. Opportunities are many, we just need to come out of the academic cocoon and celebrate their fun- filled moments of childhood without questioning their abilities.
On this special day, let us spend few gadget free moments with them. Let us peek into their small innocent world and see how vibrant it is from inside.
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